Secret life of bee's

"See, Lily, when you hear about some misery out there, it might make us feel bad for a while, but it doesn't wreck our whole world. Its like we have a built-in protection around our hearts that keeps the pain from overwhelming us."  As I read this it made me think this is what life is like. This is the point when someone realizes they've grown up, and that all these little problems that you face when your a teen mean absolutely nothing when you become an adult. When your an adult you learn to put your problems behind you and you have to keep moving on as if it was nothing. 


Everyone faces a point in their life when they realize their growing up and some times we have that one thing in our loves that shape us. Lily Owens has shaped her entire life around one devastating, blurred memory. Some things impact our lives and we'll never get over it and it'll drag with us for life, In the secret life of bees Lily is trying to escape her misery any way she could. It also shows that in life you shouldn't dwell on your past and you always have to keep moving even when it gets hard, and its really tough just know that its never too late to start over. 

In the secret life of bee's Lily is forced to live with her mean hearted father. Lily gets treated like no little girl should ever be treated, she gets beaten, screamed at, the father even tells her that the mom dying was all her fault and her mother never loved her. As I read this it seemed as if her father was slowly sucking her childhood out of her, and pulling her to grow up .  I can somewhat relate to this book, I've had a lot go on in my life and I understand that its really hard and somethings just force you to grow up, and there's nothing you can really do about it. 


But, it also kind of seems that Lily is running away from her problems instead of facing them head on and opening up to her dad and telling him off. I think she should've tried to open up to him and tell him what she was feeling and tell him how much he hurts her and tell him how cold hearted and mean he is to her and how she can't stand to be around him any longer, instead of running away with the house keeper to start a new life and make something new out of herself. Its really brave what she's doing, but I believe she would've felt a lot better if she would've told him what was going through her mind before she left him . 


I feel like the main theme of this book is being stuck on a cross road and having to chose how you want the rest of your life to be like and I think that when I was reading I found the perfect quote " you could say I never really had a true religious moment, the kind where you know yourself spoken to by a voice that seems other than yourself, spoken to so genuinely you see the words shining on trees and clouds. But I had such a moment right then, standing in my own ordinary room. I heard a voice say, Lily Melissa Owens, your jar is open."  This in my mind shows that she finally realized what she had to do for herself to change her life, and to make it what she wanted, not what everyone else wanted for her.